Relationships and being homeless!

Is it possible?  Can a homeless person have a relationship with friends and or the opposite sex?  Look around.  It happens just like it happens in everyday society.  The only difference is you don’t see many relationships developing between those that are working and the homeless as you do the homeless working out relationships with the homeless they are with.

As in any of society, there are relationships.  Just because you’re homeless doesn’t mean you don’t interact with society developing friends or even a romance.  I see the exact same thing being on the street with homeless as I do with while working and dealing with others who are employed.  It’s the same thing with some minute differences.

Developing true friends on the street is not easy.  Trust is a big issue in this.  Some can be with friends for years even out on the street.  I know, I was with one such friend for approximately three years before that relationship turned sour.  Others have shorter relationships.  Not many go as long as I did with one friend.
I do have other friends but they are more acquaintances than true friends.  I’ve found the biggest problem for those with friends on the street is that you never know when your friend will turn on you.  It could be mentally, physically, or both.  Usually it’s something simple that starts it out and is blown out of proportion.  Just like in the rest of society there is usually DRAMA behind the split between friends.  If it’s not a fight for foolish reasons it’s from theft.  Yes homeless steal from each other.  Often times more from each other than from stores.

As to relationships with the opposite sex, they do happen.  Again, like the rest of society, they can be lasting and then they can blow up.  The difference is the blowup are generally too public and again DRAMA over something he/she said or he/she did starts it all.  I have to admit though, I’ve yet to witness any physical abuse in any case.  It’s mostly shouted words instead of physical domestic violence.

Now for the most touchy of all the relationships.  The relationship between people who have and people who have not (home owners vs homeless).  In most cases you WON’T see any kind of relationships (romantic or otherwise) between them at all.  Homeowners/people who are considered wealthy no matter what they still owe out for their properties absolutely refuse to associate with the homeless in downtown Columbia.  Their personification is that ALL homeless are bad people.  We’re either thieves,  con artists,  nor even disabled according to people like those on city council or the mayor’s office.  If they had their way they’d lock all the homeless up on Bluff Road (southwestern part of Columbia city proper).

My answer for that is similar to the answer for getting rid of corrupt politicians.  In the case of homeless, there are a very few who make it bad for the rest of us homeless.  Alas, they are the ones who demand the most from society as well as government.  And yes, a great deal of those have served jail time.  Most for trespassing.  Otherwise, there is no felony conviction.  Pull those off the street who are consistently causing the issues and put them in a place more fitting.

Romantic relationships are almost non-existent between the homeless and those that have homes.  Believe me, I’ve made an attempt or two myself in getting to know ladies in town here.  I’ve used subtlety when dealing with those women who I’m attracted too.  Alas, even just trying to get to know a female who has a home is next to impossible.  Harder yet is getting one to go on  a “date” with you.   In most cases, if you haven’t got any money you need not apply.  It doesn’t stop me from trying to communicate with the ladies.   But then, I’m not in it for money nor sex.  I’m into it for companionship.  The other things will come in time if there is any chance at all between people.

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